One of my (internal) superpowers is that I don’t really care what other people think when they choose to judge. I don’t spend any time wondering what people think about me or others. To be clear, I’m not a bad person and I do not try to cause harm to anyone, but rather I have a history of helping others.
I’m just saying that I don’t stop and think about what others are thinking about me, my items, or my lifestyle. That power seems to free me of many of the mental health traps that seem to be plaguing our social media existence—and even before the apps took hold of our happiness.
Joneses
When I look back, I have never considered the need to keep up with the Joneses. It could be that I don’t even know anyone named Jones. Similarly, I don’t look at what other people have, and therefore, never think “I wish I had that.”
Yes, there are times when I see something and I think “That would be cool” and I should try that. That’s no different from reading a book or article and trying to incorporate “better” into my life.
Admiration
I think about the difference between admiration and envy. I can admire successful, talented people and what they’ve accomplished and acquired. I can even envy their knowledge and abilities, but I don’t ever seem to have jealousy or contentment for them.
When I was in and returned from Bali I became fully aware of the Instagramable photos people post showing their amazingness. That’s fine, and that works for them. I only the other hand would be more interested in posting a picture of the scooter crazyiness or the abundance of the fresh fruit drinks I was consuming. Two very un-instagramable sharings.
Loving Life
Are you able to spend your days, your thoughts, and your life energy on what you love? Are you able to find enjoyment and greatness in your hours, days, and weeks? Do your health and fitness efforts provide you joy?
I have to believe that a large part of my (your?) joy has nothing to do with the thoughts of those around you. Worse, if you are successful, your accomplishments may be resented (bad envy) by others—then they may try and bring you down. Don’t let others try and take—or override—your joy.
Do you live your inner happiness?
When did I get all mushy? (To be honest, my post is more of a “get off my lawn” post)
*** Nothing in this article is to be construed as financial advice. I am not a financial planner, nor do I pretend to be. You should always consult your own professional when seeking advice. This post is not a piece of literary mastery, just a random thought I had.