I’ve been posting about aFunDance and Bias for Action and how it relates to me.  This is not really about those around me, but about my own life enjoyment and happiness.  I don’t discount other people when I’m considering how I distribute my energy, but I mostly very absolutely think of things I’d enjoy first.

Selfish

I did a presentation at a retirement conference last fall where I was talking about friendship and community and finding what makes your soul happy.  In the middle of a thought, I just randomly said something like “it’s OK to take some time and be a little selfish.”  I was being gentle by adding “little” to my position of time allocation.

Socially Correct

I think most people got the idea as I meant it—do some things that you love.  One person came up to me after the talk to say they enjoyed the discussion, but said “selfish can be negative” and to the effect that I should be careful using that word.  I said “thank you for sharing.”  (I guess I could have said “I see you” or “I hear you” as I understand those are the modern caring statements).

Were they correct?  Are we now in a society that no longer allows for someone’s energy to stay internal?  Must we always project outward?  Is our everything required to be for the external, greater good?

You Are You

I FULLY BELIEVE WE AS LIVING BEINGS HAVE EVERY RIGHT TO PUT OURSELVES FIRST IN SOME SITUATIONS.  Take time for yourself first.  Especially if we are not hurting anyone else with that position.  If we are not good with ourselves, how can we possibly be better to/for others?  Maybe it’s like the oxygen mask safety announcement on the plane.  Maybe this is a “life safety” type announcement.

I have talked about core happiness in your soul.  The act of creating a 10 fave things list.

I’ve now added some Bias for Action to process/list by calling it the “Tuesday list.”

Zenergy

I’m really hoping that a little soul-selfishness in our lives will allow us to send our now higher level of energy out into the universe for a larger bettering.  Maybe that’s my Kevin-zen thinking.  I’m new to this Zen thing, so I probably have a lot of work to do in structuring myself in the best manner possible.

No matter what I think, would your life be (somehow) better if you took a little time to be a little selfish and nourish your soul?

*** Nothing in this article is to be construed as financial advice.  I am not a financial planner, nor do I pretend to be.  You should always consult your own professional when seeking advice. This post is not a piece of literary mastery, just a random thought I had.